Have you ever made a decision and found, when it comes to following through, you really wish you hadn’t?
Recently one of my clients, let’s call her Anne, bought a house. That’s a HUGE thing to do, right?
She made an offer….contracts were exchanged…and it was nearly time to leave her old house and move in to the new one.
Suddenly she ‘realised’ it was all a big mistake; she should never have done it; she’s actually happy where she is; everything will be fine if things stay the same
There is always uncertainty and change going on – sometimes we forget that. But unusually, at the moment, it’s happening to all of us at the same time. Many of the things we had planned for ourselves just aren’t happening or are happening quite differently. Sometimes it can feel tiring. Sometimes we imagine the worst will happen
We may be grieving over things that might have been but aren’t. The things we wish we could do but can’t. The people we wish we could hug, and they aren’t here. For me, I’ve had it relatively easy, and at the same time, how I wish that my son had been able to move over from Canada as planned. Now jobs may be harder to get and maybe he’ll just stay put.
Some of you have way more to deal with than that.
For me, the most useful thing to remember in all of this is what’s within my control and what isn’t. And how do I want to deal with the uncertainty?(more…)
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How can we best help ourselves in this time of uncertainty and potential health risks?
- CHECKING: avoid things you know make you anxious; for example if you know that checking the latest news online 18 times a day raises your anxiety levels then decide how to calm that down in a way that works for you. And if you are good at ‘body-checking’ – that is, you are constantly checking your body to find out whether you have any symptoms of ill-health – then teach yourself to look for the parts of your body and the body systems that are working well
Is there someone in your life you really struggle with?
Maybe someone at work or at home.
This exercise uses our brain’s ability to see things from different perspectives. It’s a powerful mechanism unique to humans. Let’s see if it can help you feel differently about the particular relationship you are having trouble with.(more…)
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