So, you’ve got some perspective on your life story (See ‘Be Your Own Life Coach no.2’) and you’ve considered your values, the ways of behaving that are important in your life (See ‘Be Your Own Life Coach no.3’).
From time to time it happens in our lives that it’s time to make a Big Decision. Help! What should I do? Will it be the ‘right’ decision? What if I get this wrong? Of course it’s rare that there really is a ‘right’ decision…..there’s just the one that seems best at the time.
and remember: NOT MAKING A DECISION IS ALSO A DECISION
There are lots of ways of making decisions and it does get easier when we know ourselves a little better. If you’ve got a big decision to make, or even if you haven’t and you just want to learn a little more about yourself, I suggest you start by getting some perspective ; go big, go wide. There are plenty of ways of doing this – and here’s my first:
So, just over half of the UK voted to leave Europe. And just under half voted to stay. For those who didn’t get the answer they were hoping for, what should your response be? Depression? Anger? Confusion? Panic?
You know what it’s like……you have a pain or an illness and you get fed up and you want it sorted. And you search for the answer, and you search some more, and nothing seems to work…..and you get a bit (a lot?) desperate. What to do?
You know sometimes when you wake up and think about all the things you have to do today and how it’s all too much and maybe I’m too tired and what if?…..How will I?…..and so on. Maybe your expectation is that the day will go badly. Maybe you’ve got a difficult meeting or conversation to deal with.Maybe your health is not great.
As humans, it’s easy to spend lots time thinking about what we don’t want. I’m going to suggest you start spending much more time on what you do want
Here’s a quick and easy strategy for improving your day………
I decided to do the Lightning Process with Pippa after seeing an article in The Daily Mail in 2014.I had read the book (Introduction to the Lightning Process by Phil Parker) a year before but couldn’t get my head round it then. After seeing the article I decided to re-read it. At that time I used a wheelchair and had a carer and considered it an achievement if I could make sure I at least made myself one cup of tea a day. For 3 and a 1/2 years I didn’t leave the house without a wheelchair. Any movement of my arms and legs caused severe back pain. My carer helped me wash, cook, dress and drive. My limb pain had started after an infection in my ankle. At my worst I was on a morphine patch and 19 tablets a day and still in pain. Vibrations from being in a wheelchair on a gravel path could keep me from sitting up for 10 days!
I always think I’ll do better this year. Correct me if I’m wrong, but it seems to be a very human habit – to think that this year will be better. Why will it be better? Because I will behave better; I will be luckier; I will kick my bad habits. Truth is, if I want my year to be better, I’ll have to do something different. Or wait for the luck to kick in. But I’ve never found that to work particularly well, mainly because I have no control over it.
Goals Instead of Resolutions
So, as I banged those pots in our street at Midnight (I know, those neighbours who don’t stay up must love this local habit) and danced to excellent music until 2am I knew that I’d need to make some plans for change.